Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Q&A and giveaway - Julie Metz - author of Perfection


A Bookworm's World is very happy to have Julie Metz, author of Perfection, stop in to answer a few questions. (If you missed yesterday's post, you can find my review here.) Make sure you enter to win a copy of this engrossing memoir by commenting on this post.


Q: What made you decide to go “public” with your loss and betrayal? What did you gain by sharing this with the world? Any negatives to baring all? Did you hear from other betrayed spouses after they read Perfection?

A: After Henry’s death I began keeping a journal and I wrote letters to friends. After the revelations of his betrayals, several friends suggested that I consider writing a book. At first I dismissed this idea, but I began to think about what resources there were for women in my situation. I wanted to write the book I wished had existed for me to read. I also saw my story as a cautionary tale for younger women. The response to my book has been controversial at times, but the letters I receive are overwhelmingly positive and supportive. They are from women (and some men too!), who have lived through a similar experience.

Q: How did this change your parenting style? What will you now impart to your daughter that you may not have before Henry’s death?

A: After my husband’s death I was a single mom for a time. My daughter and I had always been close, but with just the two of us we grew closer. When I met my boyfriend, we created a new family, one where each member has a different last name. I think the big lesson I would like to share with my daughter and other young women is the importance of valuing themselves as individuals and not losing themselves in a relationship.

Q: Why do you think it’s mostly men who are unfaithful in a relationship?

A: It may seem like that but I am not sure that it is mostly men. It takes two, right? From statistics I have read, nearly equal numbers of men and women report having been unfaithful. I think it’s possible that women might feel more hesitant about admitting this behavior. It’s also possible that some married men seek out unattached women with whom to have an affair.

Thanks so much for stopping in Julie! I have a copy of Perfection to giveaway - open to US and Canada, ends Sunday, November 21 at 6 pm EST. Simply leave a comment to be entered.

You can find Julie on Facebook or on Twitter. Read an excerpt of Perfection. Julie is also available for book club discussions!

58 comments:

J. Kaye said...

Had to stop by and read the Q & A after reading your review. Great interview by the way. This is such a sensitive subject and I admire the author for being so willing to open up publicly.

Myckyee said...

I've read Perfection so please don't enter me. I just wanted to say it was a really good book. Great interview!

Linda said...

This sounds like the plot for a novel - so intriguing to think it is a personal memoir.

debbie said...

That would be very difficult to go through.I would like to read the book.
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avisannschild said...

Great questions! I'd love to win a copy of this book. Note that there's no link to your review at the moment.

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Anonymous said...

Great interview, sounds like a very interseting book.

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a real librarian said...

Great interview!! Thanks for the chance to win!

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Susan Helene Gottfried said...

Important stuff, here. No need to enter me, as always. I'm droppin gin to say thanks for the e-mail. I've got this posted at Win a Book for you.

Jennifer said...

I am happy to hear she found love again. I would love to win the book.

gcpeach17 said...

This sounds like a book that should be read and I am happy to have a chance to win a copy.
Thanks!

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Sarah said...

http://everydaylifeofamamaandwife.blogspot.com/2010/10/review-of-perfection-by-julie-metz.html

Cheryl F. {The Lucky Ladybug} said...

I would love to read Perfection :) *Thanks* for the giveaway!
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AmandaSue said...

I'd love a chance into this giveaway thanks!

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Anonymous said...

Thanks for the contest...sounds like a good book. bricksiam@yahoo.com

Shana said...

I'd love this book!

Anonymous said...

Very good interview, I think that the author is very brave to write this book. I am very interested in this book.


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JHS. said...

Sounds fascinating.

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Mary said...

I have this on my list of must reads. Great giveaway!

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Brent said...

When you get married you make a public vow. A man that cheats has no respect for himself, no respect for his wife, and is displaying a significant lack of honor.

Married 16 faithful years.

Nicole C. said...

I would love to read this book.

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mmentor said...

sign me up

McKim said...

She is an inspiration to others in similar situations.

Debbie F said...

Please include me! Thanks
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Casey said...

This book sounds fascinating!

littlelatina said...

looks interesting

minishoes1 said...

What a difficult time for her to go through and I love your q and A. I would love to read this book!jacquecurl1(at)gmail(dot)com

a real librarian said...

Thanks for the great Q&A session! I am looking forward to this one.

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Laura Rachel Fox said...

Thanks for sharing your story here.

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topkat said...

fun stuff

Renee G said...

Would like to read this.
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pippirose said...

I'd love to read this.
Great interview!
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Aik said...

I'd love to enter!

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Ruthie said...

I love that there is something to be gained from a less than positive experience.

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Andria said...

I would love a chance to win. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the opportunity to win this book!

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maria said...

Sounds like a really good book!

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Anonymous said...

I love Julie Metz, please enter me

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Laura H. said...

This sounds like the premise for a movie -- not someone's life unfortunately. Thanks for the giveaway!

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Amy said...

I've wanted to read Perfection ever since it was published but I've been waiting for the paper back version. It would be wonderful to win this copy!

Thank you for another fantastic giveaway!

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Marilu said...

I have this title on my " to read" list. This interview has made me want to read it even more!
I would love to win a copy. Please enter me. Thanks!

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Dawn M. said...

Sounds interesting. Count me in, please!

Thanks! :0)
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Becca said...

Sounds amazing, thank you for the opportunity! sbcashortie at hotmail dot com

Molly said...

This book sounds great! Please enter me!

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ky2here said...

I'm Amazed with how secure she must be to be able to process this in public. Good for her. I need to read this.

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Anonymous said...

Would love to read this.
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Anonymous said...

I like to read non-fiction!

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Benita said...

Sounds like a really compelling novel.

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Diane52 said...

Enjoyed reading about the book and would love to read it.
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Jon_Lefkove said...

I would like to read the book.

tallcapp said...

The interview with Julie Metz made me very interested in reading this book.

purango said...

I enjoyed the interview. I would love to read the book. Thanks. garrettsa mbo@aol.com

dvice said...

This looks great

kathy pease said...

Thank you for the great giveaway please count me in :)
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missreneer said...

I would love to read this. I can't even imagine her pain at the time. Thank you so much for this amazing giveaway :)

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loni said...

This sounds like a great read. Please enter me


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Laura H. said...

Thanks for the great giveaway AND the great interview! Quite the cathartic work.

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Timshaun said...

This sounds really interesting. Would love to win this.
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Annerszz101 said...

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